Have you gained weight during the pandemic...or at any time? In this episode, I will be covering what to do if you have put on weight or if you're anxious that you will put on weight. I'll be talking about the complex realities that folks face that have made living in a fat body harder than normal, and the heightened global fatphobia. Also, how to cope if you're eating more food than normal, and I talk about why engaging in exercise at home may be harmful to you.
In this episode, I reveal a massive issue in the confidence coaching world that you NEED to be aware of because following bad advice will damage your self-esteem. I also cover the biggest barrier that keeps people committed to hating their body and discuss why, if you’ve been working on loving your body and you’re not seeing results, it’s NOT your fault and what is actually going on. Also, we bust through the biggest limiting self-beliefs people have, that is: 1) “I’m scared to put on weight” and 2) “I’m anxious that being fat will make me unhealthy.
What is the “Constant Learner Effect” is and why you need to avoid this at all costs. Why your current strategy is actually LOWERING your body confidence. The counter-intuitive thing you should be doing instead. 3 questions to ask yourself to determine if you’ve fallen into the “Constant Learner Effect.” PLUS what the heck does The Devil Wears Prada have to teach us about body confidence and how we can avoid making the same critical mistake Andy makes in the film.
Did you know that the Western world started being worried about being fat because white people didn't want to resemble black people who they believed were only interested in "fornication and food" and were "lazy"? Yep, surprize, surprize it was racism that started our preference for smaller bodies. In this episode, I talk about the work of Sabrina Strings and how centuries of racism has effected beauty ideals.
Nancy Pelosi recently fat-shamed Trump. Trump is a horror show of a human being, but one thing about him that isn't bad? His weight. Literally, there are hundreds of ways to take down Trump, and him being fat is not one of his personal failures. But...is it ever ok to fat-shame? What if you do it nicely because you're concerned about loved ones' health? What if someone thin-shamed you? What if the fat person really is a massive bellend? We discuss this topic in today's episode. Let's do it!
Wanna know why the anti-fat positive community says body positivity has gone too far? Should we be watching fat-positive cringe videos for legitimate critiques about the movement? Do any of their arguments have merit or are they just a bunch of far-right bigots spewing misinformation? Find out in this episode!
How To Love Your Fat Body Challenge (Be In All The Photos, Ditch The Boring Clothes and Stop Pulling Your Top Down To Hide Your Belly). Did you miss out on the 3 Day Challenge I hosted? Fear not! I have edited all the very best bits from the 3 days into one juicy podcast episode. Get out your notebook and get ready to start doing some incredible things!
What happens when a Bopo influencer responds to feeling bad in her body post covid by restricting food and monitoring their exercise? What if other Bopo influencers (who are thin) are encouraging the behaviour? What if YOU feel bad about your body post covid? Does the fact that Bopo influencers seem to cheer on weight loss attempts in the name of health mean that this is something you should attempt as well? It’s all so confusing! Let’s talk about this nuanced topic in this episode! TW: I am talking about binge eating disorder and eating disorder behaviour and disordered thoughts extensively in this episode (without mentioning specific numbers or foods).
Got someone in your life that isn’t quite on board with being pro-fat acceptance and anti-diet and you don’t know how to respond when they say things like “but, fat people have heart attacks and die younger! What about diabetes! Their KNEEESSSS!?” I’m coming at you with some super powerful studies and real-life science to break this down even further. There are gonna be a few things in this episode that are going to be really surprising and having you feel more confident in the decision to start this body acceptance journey. Trigger Warning: I am going to be citing studies that use the O words. I also will be talking about specific weight and height ratios closer to the end of the episode.
When you increase your confidence, is it all rainbows and glitter spraying from your bumhole? Nah. There are downsides. Things that are difficult and annoying, and I’m gonna share them with you today. Also, have you seen on TikTok or IG the new trend of “mid-size” (people who are straight-sized but are not thin). A lot of fat people have FEELINGS about it, and I’m gonna share my own take on this new (actually being going on forever) trend.
Don't like your fat body? Could it because you're holding onto a certain fear, making this common mistake, or have a certain misconception? Tune into this episode where I share the common obstacles folks face and give you a juicy "how to" so that you can dig into some deeply held beliefs that you may have held onto for years.
Self-love means caring for your body, which means losing weight!" Seems logical, but is it actually? Does being fat mean you've given up and don't give a sh*t about your body, your health, and hate yourself? Let's put this statement to the test! TW: brief mention of sexual assault and I talk about getting a PAP/smear test.
GOOP donkey Gwyneth Paltrow has promoted a book called Intuitive Fasting, and it made me think about all the BS ways diet culture is sneaking into our lives. Now that Body Positivity and Ant-Diet are becoming more trendy, I am seeing SO MANY popular IG accounts causing me major eye-roll-itis and indignant groans galore. They *look* legit, yet when we scratch the surface, there is a different story; in this episode, I will share the red flags that I see waving left and right. PLUS, I answer a listener question on whether her new boyfriend is fetishizing her fat body or not. Come join me!
Do you have some unhelpful beliefs that you can't get rid of no hard you try? Then listen on into this episode where I talk about neural pathways, what they are and how we can use the ways our brains work to our benefit. We cover how beliefs are like suitcases and why some beliefs are harder to shake than others. Also, I started online dating! Hear about that sh!t show in today's episode, lol, sob.
What our society has taught us about fat people: OMG, fat people are stalking the streets in search of thin people to gobble up! Once they catch them, the fatties suck what little fat The Thins (TM) have through a straw pierced into their belly buttons! Their appetites and depravity know no bounds, and due to their deplorable behaviour, they are "heart attacks waiting to happen"!!!!!! Of course, I am exaggerating there, but should we be worried that if we live in a fat body we are probably gonna die imminently? Is there any truth to the hyperbolic headlines featuring images of headless fatties? Let’s talk about it in this episode.
TW: O Words, health, and weight correlations, health-promoting behaviours, death from medical fatphobia.
I used to believe that ALL fat people were fat because they had mental health issues. Is it true that when people experience trauma, they consciously or unconsciously put on weight to protect themselves? Is being fat just a physical manifestation of something else that is going on that we need to fix? I answer these questions PLUS talk about age positivity in this week's episode.
Do you find yourself thinking "those other fatties are gorgeous but my body is a crime scene!" Why is it that we can intellectually know it's ok to be fat but we think our own bodies are unattractive? This needs to stop! Join me in this episode where I break this down so you can stop falling into this trap. PLUS I update you on the stats around covid and fatness - are the new studies true that fat people are going to spontaneously combust and eat children true? Find out in this episode!
Binge Eating Disorder is the most prevalent eating disorder in adults, yet hardly anyone talks about it. So many people who live with it believe they are just addicted to food and a good old diet will fix their perceived out-of-control relationship around "bad" food. I talk about my own experience with this eating disorder and how I shifted my beliefs around it to get to a place where I was thankful I had it in my life at the time I needed it.
Trigger warning: I will be talking about eating disorders in this episode, food quantities, spousal abuse through food deprivation, and also a brief mention of child sexual assault, so skip if that’s not feeling ok for you today.
I've stopped dieting and therefore I am free from the grips of diet culture! Right? Umm..maybe not. Diet culture is this tricky, sticky beast that has its tentacles in so many areas of our life and chances are you still have diet culture lurking in your thinking and ways of behaving. TW: Mentions of food moralisation, diet behaviours.
Has a friend been a little distant or perhaps you haven't heard from someone in a while? What does it mean? Well, that everyone hates you...of course! (sarcasm alert). Why is it that we make up stories about how others perceive us in our heads and think that we have f*cked up in some way when the reality is probably something completely different? In this episode, I share how in my irrational brain I think certain people hate me and explore the feelings of those who I am jealous of.
