Did you know that the Western world started being worried about being fat because white people didn't want to resemble black people who they believed were only interested in "fornication and food" and were "lazy"? Yep, surprize, surprize it was racism that started our preference for smaller bodies. In this episode, I talk about the work of Sabrina Strings and how centuries of racism has effected beauty ideals.
Nancy Pelosi recently fat-shamed Trump. Trump is a horror show of a human being, but one thing about him that isn't bad? His weight. Literally, there are hundreds of ways to take down Trump, and him being fat is not one of his personal failures. But...is it ever ok to fat-shame? What if you do it nicely because you're concerned about loved ones' health? What if someone thin-shamed you? What if the fat person really is a massive bellend? We discuss this topic in today's episode. Let's do it!
People say to me all the time "Victoria, I wish I could be confident like you, but I can't do it!" I tell them "of course you can!" but they don't believe me. In this podcast episode I talk about that BS belief that people hold that are incapable of being confident and loving their fat body because they are just not that type of person or are particularly ugly or fat or (insert another BS lie you believe here). You CAN get to a place of body acceptance and even love. Learn how in this podcast.
Has your partner confessed that weight gain is a turn off for them? Or do you just know they have a preference for your body to be smaller rather than bigger? A long term ex-partner of mine told me that he was less attracted to me because I had put on a little weight. In this episode, I tell you that story and also what to do if this happens to you (or you fear it'll happen!).
This is part 2 of 2 of my domestic abuse story. We left off last episode where the violence was just beginning. If you missed the last episode, go back and check that out first before listening to this one. A reminder about the trigger warning: violence, sexual abuse, alcoholism, self-harm, and mention of suicide. This episode gets a lot heavier as my ex begins to get more abusive. There are some moments where he gets his comeuppance however which is satisfying to hear.
Did you know that the Western world started being worried about being fat because white people didn't want to resemble black people who they believed were only interested in "fornication and food" and were "lazy"? Yep, surprize, surprize it was racism that started our preference for smaller bodies. In this episode, I talk about the work of Sabrina Strings and how centuries of racism has effected beauty ideals.
Nancy Pelosi recently fat-shamed Trump. Trump is a horror show of a human being, but one thing about him that isn't bad? His weight. Literally, there are hundreds of ways to take down Trump, and him being fat is not one of his personal failures. But...is it ever ok to fat-shame? What if you do it nicely because you're concerned about loved ones' health? What if someone thin-shamed you? What if the fat person really is a massive bellend? We discuss this topic in today's episode. Let's do it!
People say to me all the time "Victoria, I wish I could be confident like you, but I can't do it!" I tell them "of course you can!" but they don't believe me. In this podcast episode I talk about that BS belief that people hold that are incapable of being confident and loving their fat body because they are just not that type of person or are particularly ugly or fat or (insert another BS lie you believe here). You CAN get to a place of body acceptance and even love. Learn how in this podcast.
Has your partner confessed that weight gain is a turn off for them? Or do you just know they have a preference for your body to be smaller rather than bigger? A long term ex-partner of mine told me that he was less attracted to me because I had put on a little weight. In this episode, I tell you that story and also what to do if this happens to you (or you fear it'll happen!).
This is part 2 of 2 of my domestic abuse story. We left off last episode where the violence was just beginning. If you missed the last episode, go back and check that out first before listening to this one. A reminder about the trigger warning: violence, sexual abuse, alcoholism, self-harm, and mention of suicide. This episode gets a lot heavier as my ex begins to get more abusive. There are some moments where he gets his comeuppance however which is satisfying to hear.
I want to talk about domestic abuse today and my experience with it. I was in an abusive relationship for over 2 years, and I feel compelled to tell my story in detail, in part because domestic violence is at critical levels with the lockdowns. A massive trigger warning on this episode: I talk about emotional abuse, violence, sexual abuse, alcoholism, financial abuse, forced dieting, and mentions of food, a very brief mention of a pedophile, and rape. Please skip this episode if you think this could trigger you.
Is embracing your body just an excuse to give up on your health? Is fat positivity or body positivity advocating for people to be unhealthy? What do you say to a fat person who is unhealthy due to their weight? I answer all these questions and a listener question in this episode. Plus a Covid-19 fat health update. CW: mention of the O words throughout.
I've gone from extremely low self-esteem to get to a place where I KNOW I am worthy and gorgeous and a-ok just the way I am today. With that gigantic shift has come many changes in my life; good, bad, and just plain weird. Hear about them in today's episode, and let's compare notes on some of the things we have experienced with low and high self-esteem. PLUS, I spill some juicy, cringy dating stories from when I had low confidence versus now, when I have high confidence.
COVID-19 is a traumatic event for lots of the world, and one big reason is food insecurity and the impacts of that. I grew up in poverty as a child, and so we literally had food scarcity, and I also lived in a fatphobic, pro-weight-loss household, and so there were the added confusing food beliefs around that too....which a lot of people experience. Having a history of dieting, a disordered relationship with food, or an eating disorder can make COVID-19 a massive trigger for old patterns and behaviours. Learn about that in this episode and also what the heck to do about it. TW: mention of bulimia, spousal abuse, alcoholism, starvation, mention of specific food and trauma effects.
I have a super special podcast episode for you today! I would be remiss if I didn't talk about the shit show that is COVID-19, so here is an episode to help you cope with all of the fatphobic memes, all of the WhatsApp messages from your mum telling you that if you put a cucumber up your bum you won't get sick, all of the weird feelings around food and your body. Phew, it's A LOT to cope with right now. I am joined by guests: sex therapist Dawn Serra, plus-size personal trainer Louise Green, and body image coach Summer Innanen (who also happen to be my friends from Vancouver!). Yay. We will be talking about overcoming food scarcity feelings, fighting negative body thoughts, fat-positive self-care, and lots of other things to make your brain happy.
The belief "fat is bad" is an opinion you've been brainwashed into believing...it's not actually a fact! Because of these bogus messages you've been hearing all your life, you have been convinced to hate your body. You now have to decide to change and start believing new ideas of what is acceptable, attractive, and worthy. In this episode, I will teach you how to do that. Let's do it!
Do you think about food all the time? Countdown the minutes until you can eat again? Are you addicted to eating? What about sugar? Is it impossible to leave sugary things in your vicinity because you'll eat them all up?
In this podcast found out what is going on in our bodies and finally answer the question: Am I addicted to food or sugar? TW: Mention of addiction behaviours and substance use.
What is it exactly that confident people do? Do they have secret superpowers that can only be replicated with witchcraft and sorcery? In this episode I'm going to share the things that confident people do on the regular that make them stay confident so that you can copy those behaviours and thoughts to increase your own self-esteem.
A listener question is answered in this episode! Are you thinking about stopping dieting and starting with intuitive eating? Are you really nervous about putting on weight because of that fact? Then you need to check out this episode for my techniques to reframe this and some new ways to look at having a fat body.
TW: Depression, suicide, trauma, sexual abuse, alcoholism, domestic violence. Struggling with mental health issues can be a common and complicated thing for those who live in marginalized bodies. In this episode I talk about my history with trauma, depression and what worked for me when everything else seemed to fail.
