How to Deal with a Bad Body Image Day

I got trolled by someone with over a million followers. Fun times! Maybe you've had a bad day, a bad body image day....or a bad body image decade? In this episode, I talk about the trolling experience, how I dealt with it, and talk about the steps you can take to deal with bad days because they will happen if you're a living human being.

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How Fatphobic Beliefs Hurt My Sex Life

Fat sex! How does society view fat bodies and how do we view our own fat bodies when it comes to sex and desirability? What impact does that have on the way we relate to others sexually? TW: mention of fatphobic beliefs about fat bodies.

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The Left Has a Big Fatphobia Problem

Progressive spaces are filled with people who are determined to hold onto bigoted beliefs and it's really getting on my t*ts! In many liberal spaces, discrimination is a big no-no, people work to be anti-racist, anti-sexist, they pride themselves on being forward-thinking and inclusive....that is until it comes to fat bodies.

Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/058

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Path A or Path B? Choose Your Own Adventure!

Remember that film Sliding Doors with Gwynyth Paltrow? Or the Choose Your Own Adventure books? Our life is a real-life choose your own adventure and in this episode, I explore what life could look like if you choose to love your body and find peace with food and also the other path...where you choose to continue dieting and hating your body. Which path is best for you??

Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/057

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What I Hear When People Tell Me I Have Changed Their Life

In this podcast episode, I read an incredibly powerful letter I received from a listener about living in a superfat body and then I talk about this super cool person who is going to help you SO MUCH when it comes to loving your fat body!

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Is Body Positivity Toxic?

What are the most common questions and misconceptions folks have about body positivity? In this episode, I am answering the most searched questions about body positivity and sharing the answers!

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When Your Fave Celeb Loses Weight

Another fat celeb has lost weight and a listener has written to me about it. How do we feel when our favourite fat icon is no longer fat? Why am I having all these emotions and what do they meeeeaaaannn?!

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The Results From My Fatphobia Quiz

I am revealing the results of my Fatphobia Quiz and share what this means about how we feel about fat bodies...and in particular the way we view our own fat bodies. What percentage of people think fat people deserve equal rights? Do we judge other bodies more harshly than our own? Do people still believe that weight loss is simple? Find out in this episode!

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Loving your fat body - It can be Life or Death

Why Tom Hanks can teach us a massive lesson (and it’s not just how to dance on a giant piano). How we can harness this one single lesson to create huge positive impacts on our body confidence and knowing why knowing “Why” is life-changing - literally. PLUS I share all the acronyms and meanings of popular phrases in the fat-positive community so you don't have to Google anything!

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How Body Shame Is With Us All Year Long

What is Seasonal Body Shame and what are the effects of suffering from it? What it looks like year-round...and discover if you have 1 season or more. CW: At the beginning of the show I read about folx's experience with "weight loss" surgery stories include mention of death, suicide, and negative consequences. That section is between 14:30 and 20:46.

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Will Weight Loss Surgery Make You Thin and Healthy

Does weight loss surgery make you thin? What percentage of people is it successful for? Are the side effects worth it and what are they exactly? This episode is a deep dive into bariatric surgery AKA "weight loss" surgery AKA stomach amputation. CW: There are mentions of the O Words, suicide rates and brief mention of calories.

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Before and After Pictures: Here's What I See

Why diets lie to us and trick us into thinking that weight loss will give us confidence and health and ow diets actually give us the opposite thing we are looking for. How to actually get what you want (confidence, health, mobility) without shrinking your body and I also reveal this outrageous trick diet culture is using to hurt you and how to avoid it.

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Why Confidence Is Temporary For Lots Of People

I am cracking the lid on the exact method I teach inside my paid program Fierce Fatty Academy so that you can copy it. This is all the phases you need to pass through in order to feel confident in your fat body. Before I share that I talk about Kill Bill...yes the movie!

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Do You Believe This Myth About Stopping Dieting And Loving Your Fat Body

In this episode, we are talking about the most common misconceptions folks have around feeling more confident in their body and free around food. Why believing these myths isn’t helpful and how you can begin to feel better sooner rather than later.

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Loving Your Fat Body : Is The Solution Worse Than The Problem?

I've got a super sexy 2-part podcast for you today! I will be answering what is happening in your gorgeous fatty brain when you believe your body is unattractive - when I explain this it'll make total sense! Also, I share 3 questions you need to ask yourself that will really challenge some viewpoints.

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Are You Making This Mistake When It Comes To Loving Your Body

Disclaimer: Saying you don't have the time to work on loving your fat body when you seriously DON'T have the time is a legit reason and not an excuse for not being able to work on loving your fat body. In this video, I am talking about those of us who have lots of spare time but tell ourselves we don't (and there could be an underlying reason as to why we do that). So if you ARE super busy this video is not aimed at you, just those of us (including, ahem...me) who use the excuse of being busy as a way to avoid fear/stress/doing something difficult/some other reason.

There are 2 big things people say to themselves that stop them from seeing results when it comes to loving their fat body. In this episode learn how to avoid making these 2 pitfalls and reframe beliefs that don’t serve you. Also, I talk about what is really going on when we make excuses and don’t take action. PLUS: It’s my birthday and so I have a present for you!

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THE ONE THING THAT AUTOMATICALLY INCREASES BODY CONFIDENCE

If you lack confidence, it is a vicious circle. 

You lack confidence so you don't do “the thing” and because you haven't done “the thing”, your confidence doesn't grow. 

Remember: 

It's like learning to swim by just reading a book. 

You have to jump in the water. You don't have to jump in the deep end. Don't jump in the deep end because you may traumatize yourself. 

Jump in the shallow end. Just tinkle your toes in a little bit of water. Just get a little bit wet and then run out. Put your clothes on and go home. 

If you do those little things and then keep practicing more and more and more. Until then you're diving off a hundred foot diving board. 

If you don't and you just learn, learn, learn, you're going to reinforce the belief that you can't do it and you’ll think confidence is just for other people. 

You're going to stay stuck. 

You will become overwhelmed with information. There are so many things that are on your reading list that you can listen to, watch, and consume. 

Sometimes that information isn't helpful and isn't important. 

You'll just read this book, read this blog post and save loads of bookmarks of things that you need to do.

The thing you should do is TAKE AN ACTION. 

When you do take action, it's going to automatically build confidence if you do it in the right way. 

Remember, don't jump into the deep end because you could scare yourself. Just a little tinkle of your toes over the water.

That's going to build confidence and you'll gather momentum. 

You can still have that reading list of the hundred things that you need to read, but also you can be doing “the things” and experience freedom. 

You will learn that if you’re gently with yourself you can actually do scary things.

You didn't die when you wore that dress. 

You didn't die when you wore a sleeveless top. 

You didn't die when you looked at your body in the mirror.

You survived and can do it again and do even more incredible things!

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HATE YOUR FAT BELLY?

Bethan (a Fierce Fatty Academy Member) shared her experience…

“There's a little kid who asked me the other month and it was really awkward. This kid asked me when my baby was due while his parents just sat there. 

I'm quite small at the top and then my stomach goes out. 

It was so awkward and it just went silent. I felt like I was standing there naked and I almost cried. 

We were driving back. It was an hour-long drive and I just cried the entire way home. 

Even though it's just a kid, it still hurts. I've got a lot of pressure and I just automatically hate it [my belly].

It's not good to carry that around with me, but I think because it's held so much sadness, I guess. 

It's not good for me to carry it around.”

Victoria’s advice…

“The word fat and the reason why activists have reclaimed that word is that it was so powerfully painful and by reclaiming it we get to decide the meaning of it. 

It takes the power away and exactly like you say it's very difficult for people to call themselves fat or even like my business name, Fierce Fatty. 

A lot of people would say they don't want to be associated with the word “fatty.”

Fat is just a neutral descriptor and it doesn't mean that I'm bad or lazy or whatever it is that society has put on that thing. 

Your belly could be a representation of sad things or bad things or all of that type of stuff. 

Is there a way for you to reclaim your belly and turn it into something that is neutral? 

Turn it into something that is a positive thing or a really cool thing about you and that is something unique about you?”

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DOES DIET CULTURE HAVE A SIMILARITIES TO CULTS?

Behaviour control is the thing that cults do. Here are some examples:

  • Regulate an individual’s physical reality

  • Dictate where, how, and with whom the member lives and associates

  • Control types of clothing

  • Regulate diet ~ food and drink 

  • Hunger and/or fasting

Just in those first few things; controlling what you wear, how you eat, your physical reality, what you do with your life ~ this could be how you exercise, what foods you eat, whether you're spending time with certain people who are not dieting. You don't want them to influence you in negative ways.

Regulating an individual's physical reality…

When you're on a diet, your physical reality is 100% regulated. From the moment you wake up, the first thing that you would be thinking about is your diet.

When am I allowed to eat?

What am I allowed to eat?

When should I be exercising?

How much should I be exercising?

What clothes should I be wearing to hide my body?

What clothes should I be wearing to indicate that I'm a good fatty?

EVERYTHING. From morning till night, you were affected when you were on a diet. You're obsessed with that. 

Diet culture tells you what you should be doing and shouldn't be doing.

The next one on information control is deception. Deliberately withhold information, distort information to make it more acceptable, and systematically lie to the cult member.

The backbone of the diet is DECEPTION. 

There’s no study in the world that shows that dieting successfully reduces your body weight in the long-term.

The idea of dieting is based on deception withholding information and distorting information.

You see these adverts, "Oh, look at these people. They are so happy because they are so thin. They're going to be amazing."

I see some sort of stats saying, "10% of members can lose weight."

That's not TRUE!

10% of the members are not able to lose weight.

They don’t have SCIENTIFIC proof to show that dieting works.

P.S. Are you sick and tired of hating your body? Learn the exact steps to take to get to a place of body love and the 3 BIGGEST mistakes all people make in this journey here by getting The Fierce Fatty Body Love Roadmap for free: https://bampowlife.kartra.com/page/roapmap

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THE MAGICAL BY-PRODUCT OF BEING CONFIDENT

If you work on your confidence, if you say no to diets, if you say yes to fat positivity, you will change the world.

You are able to break the cycle of body shame and dieting in your family, in your community.

You are the brave pioneer that stands up to oppression and when you make a difference like that, then you affect those around you.

It's like coronavirus. You WILL have an impact on those around you. They will have an impact on those around them.

It spreads like the virus. I wish that there was some statistic to say for every confident person, they positively impact 1.2 people.

Be a role model. 

When I say be a role model, you don't have to stand on a stage and talk, but it's those small moments like when you were at work and someone says, "Oh I need to eat a salad cause I had some cake yesterday." You say, "Well, I don't believe in that. I believe that you can have salad and cake and all of the food that you want." That is being a role model for those around you.

Think about if you have children or have any children in your life or children in the lives of people around you, you might not even know that people around you that you were affecting with either good body image or bad body image.

What if you said “I've had enough of hating my body!” how would that affect those around you? And then in the future children are not then dieting and hating their bodies and it's just an exponential positivity.

When one person decides, "No, I've had enough of this bullshit. I'm not dieting. I'm not hating my body anymore" they are changing the world.

Life is too short and you change the world as an individual. You change the world and it is beautiful. It is incredible.

Don't forget the power that you have. If you decide enough is enough and you break that cycle of shame... and also don't forget the power if you don't.

We've all seen it, we've all seen generations of fatphobia being passed down to generation after generation. Because no one above us, no other family member said, "Fuck that shit. I'm putting the end to it and I'm changing our family's legacy. I'm changing the world. I'm changing this community with my one act of bravery.”

You now have that choice. What will you choose?

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