Have you gained weight during the pandemic...or at any time? In this episode, I will be covering what to do if you have put on weight or if you're anxious that you will put on weight. I'll be talking about the complex realities that folks face that have made living in a fat body harder than normal, and the heightened global fatphobia. Also, how to cope if you're eating more food than normal, and I talk about why engaging in exercise at home may be harmful to you.
In this episode, I reveal a massive issue in the confidence coaching world that you NEED to be aware of because following bad advice will damage your self-esteem. I also cover the biggest barrier that keeps people committed to hating their body and discuss why, if you’ve been working on loving your body and you’re not seeing results, it’s NOT your fault and what is actually going on. Also, we bust through the biggest limiting self-beliefs people have, that is: 1) “I’m scared to put on weight” and 2) “I’m anxious that being fat will make me unhealthy.
What is the “Constant Learner Effect” is and why you need to avoid this at all costs. Why your current strategy is actually LOWERING your body confidence. The counter-intuitive thing you should be doing instead. 3 questions to ask yourself to determine if you’ve fallen into the “Constant Learner Effect.” PLUS what the heck does The Devil Wears Prada have to teach us about body confidence and how we can avoid making the same critical mistake Andy makes in the film.
Did you know that the Western world started being worried about being fat because white people didn't want to resemble black people who they believed were only interested in "fornication and food" and were "lazy"? Yep, surprize, surprize it was racism that started our preference for smaller bodies. In this episode, I talk about the work of Sabrina Strings and how centuries of racism has effected beauty ideals.
Nancy Pelosi recently fat-shamed Trump. Trump is a horror show of a human being, but one thing about him that isn't bad? His weight. Literally, there are hundreds of ways to take down Trump, and him being fat is not one of his personal failures. But...is it ever ok to fat-shame? What if you do it nicely because you're concerned about loved ones' health? What if someone thin-shamed you? What if the fat person really is a massive bellend? We discuss this topic in today's episode. Let's do it!
I've got a super sexy 2-part podcast for you today! I will be answering what is happening in your gorgeous fatty brain when you believe your body is unattractive - when I explain this, it'll make total sense! Also, I share 3 questions you need to ask yourself that will really challenge some viewpoints.
There are 2 big things people say to themselves that stop them from seeing results when it comes to loving their fat body. In this episode, learn how to avoid these 2 pitfalls and reframe beliefs that don’t serve you. Also, I talk about what is really going on when we make excuses and don’t take action. PLUS: It’s my birthday, so I have a present for you!
We have a special episode today as I am coaching a member of my program, Fierce Fatty Academy, live! Bethan is struggling with dealing with other people's opinions (even if she isn't sure what the other person is actually thinking - have you ever done that? I know I have!). Also, she is having a serious hate fest with her belly that hangs...which happens to be the number one area of our body that fat people struggle to accept. TW: Mention of spousal abuse (physical violence + emotional abuse), including a very brief mention of rape. Very brief mention of suicidal ideation.
There are 4 key mistakes everyone makes when they are on their body-loving journey, and I see them come up time and time again as reasons folks are stuck and don’t feel good in their body. Today I will be going in-depth on all 4 of them so that you can avoid these pitfalls. When you don’t work on the things we will be talking about in today’s episode, then it’s like pouring water into a bucket with holes in it; you’ll be working really hard to feel more confident in your body, and it feels like nothing is working. It’s not your fault; we just need to plug those holes! Content warning: I talk about what the UK government is suggesting to make people not fat in the first section; skip to 7 mins in to avoid this. Brief mention of the O Words.
I deep dive into this important question and show the similarities between cult behaviours and that of diets and diet culture. Why is it so hard to leave dieting...perhaps even more so than something we would consider a traditional organised cult? Also, I talk about how to easily spot if what you’re engaging in is cult-like.
In today’s podcast, I am talking about feeling unattractive because you are fat. Is it true that finding a partner is harder when you are fat? Are you destined to be single and alone forever or WORSE dating someone who is unsuitable for you because they are “kind enough” to overlook the size of your body? I talk about this AND answer a listener question in today’s show.
We have a guest on today's show, and it's a member of my program, Fierce Fatty Academy. Susie shares her story of the first time she knew that her body was "wrong" and the consequences of a cruel comment from a teacher. After 26 years of dieting - losing weight, then inevitably regaining it - she had had enough. Her transformation is unbelievable even to Susie, so you gotta tune in and hear what she has done; now she loves her fat body.
I am talking about the magical things I thought would happen when I became thin and also the ways in which I used to disguise my fatness. Some of them are pretty hilarious. Also, I talk about why we have magical thinking when it comes to weight loss. What ways have you tried to hide your body size from the world?
What if I put a picture on Facebook and people notice that I have put on weight? What if my family judges me negatively for working on loving my fat body? What if I wear a crop top outside and a teenage boy shouts, "Oi, fatty!"? Yep, fear of judgment is a real motherf*cker and can stop us from living our lives in an authentic way. In this episode, I will bust through some of these fears, and let's see if we can shift some of those beliefs for you :)
Have you gained weight during the pandemic...or at any time? In this episode, I will be covering what to do if you have put on weight or if you're anxious that you will put on weight. I'll be talking about the complex realities that folks face that have made living in a fat body harder than normal, and the heightened global fatphobia. Also, how to cope if you're eating more food than normal, and I talk about why engaging in exercise at home may be harmful to you.
In this episode, I reveal a massive issue in the confidence coaching world that you NEED to be aware of because following bad advice will damage your self-esteem. I also cover the biggest barrier that keeps people committed to hating their body and discuss why, if you’ve been working on loving your body and you’re not seeing results, it’s NOT your fault and what is actually going on. Also, we bust through the biggest limiting self-beliefs people have, that is: 1) “I’m scared to put on weight” and 2) “I’m anxious that being fat will make me unhealthy.
What is the “Constant Learner Effect” is and why you need to avoid this at all costs. Why your current strategy is actually LOWERING your body confidence. The counter-intuitive thing you should be doing instead. 3 questions to ask yourself to determine if you’ve fallen into the “Constant Learner Effect.” PLUS what the heck does The Devil Wears Prada have to teach us about body confidence and how we can avoid making the same critical mistake Andy makes in the film.
Did you know that the Western world started being worried about being fat because white people didn't want to resemble black people who they believed were only interested in "fornication and food" and were "lazy"? Yep, surprize, surprize it was racism that started our preference for smaller bodies. In this episode, I talk about the work of Sabrina Strings and how centuries of racism has effected beauty ideals.
Nancy Pelosi recently fat-shamed Trump. Trump is a horror show of a human being, but one thing about him that isn't bad? His weight. Literally, there are hundreds of ways to take down Trump, and him being fat is not one of his personal failures. But...is it ever ok to fat-shame? What if you do it nicely because you're concerned about loved ones' health? What if someone thin-shamed you? What if the fat person really is a massive bellend? We discuss this topic in today's episode. Let's do it!
People say to me all the time "Victoria, I wish I could be confident like you, but I can't do it!" I tell them "of course you can!" but they don't believe me. In this podcast episode I talk about that BS belief that people hold that are incapable of being confident and loving their fat body because they are just not that type of person or are particularly ugly or fat or (insert another BS lie you believe here). You CAN get to a place of body acceptance and even love. Learn how in this podcast.
Has your partner confessed that weight gain is a turn off for them? Or do you just know they have a preference for your body to be smaller rather than bigger? A long term ex-partner of mine told me that he was less attracted to me because I had put on a little weight. In this episode, I tell you that story and also what to do if this happens to you (or you fear it'll happen!).
This is part 2 of 2 of my domestic abuse story. We left off last episode where the violence was just beginning. If you missed the last episode, go back and check that out first before listening to this one. A reminder about the trigger warning: violence, sexual abuse, alcoholism, self-harm, and mention of suicide. This episode gets a lot heavier as my ex begins to get more abusive. There are some moments where he gets his comeuppance however which is satisfying to hear.
I want to talk about domestic abuse today and my experience with it. I was in an abusive relationship for over 2 years, and I feel compelled to tell my story in detail, in part because domestic violence is at critical levels with the lockdowns. A massive trigger warning on this episode: I talk about emotional abuse, violence, sexual abuse, alcoholism, financial abuse, forced dieting, and mentions of food, a very brief mention of a pedophile, and rape. Please skip this episode if you think this could trigger you.
Is embracing your body just an excuse to give up on your health? Is fat positivity or body positivity advocating for people to be unhealthy? What do you say to a fat person who is unhealthy due to their weight? I answer all these questions and a listener question in this episode. Plus a Covid-19 fat health update. CW: mention of the O words throughout.
