People say to me all the time, “Victoria, I would love to be confident.” 

People say “I would love to accept my fat body. I would love to feel like you, but I can't do it. I just don't think I can get there. It's not an option for me. I've tried and it’s not worked. Being like you is impossible, but I admire you for it. I also want it, but I am not going to get there.”

My advice to you:

Just do it! You CAN get there but the beliefs you currently hold mean that you think you can’t.

When I wasn't confident I used to think that I was particularly ugly and disgusting. I was particularly fucked up. My life experiences are particularly bad. 

And because of that I could never get to a place of confidence. 

Things I used to say to myself:

• The people around me, my family are fatphobic and will never accept me.

• Have you seen my belly? It's massive, bigger than what you see on Instagram and my tits are extra saggy, not like yours. 

• My bum is flat, not like what it should be. 

• My cellulite is extra cellulite-ty. 

When I was not confident, I would look at confident people and think they have something extra special or something about them that I don't have. 

They might be fat, but they've got perky tits or they've got a flat stomach or they've got some sort of thing that I don't have, which means it's not possible for me. 

But do you know what? All of my past beliefs were bullshit!

However, it is a million percent normal to feel like this!

So many people feel like this. Heck, I felt like this for 90% of my life. 

But listen up...it's not possible for people to get to a place of self love or even self-acceptance if they hold onto the unhelpful beliefs that I held onto for so many years.  

Today, let's decide that we need to work on letting go of the limiting self beliefs that don't serve us and only hinder us from feeling truly confident in our skin.

You with me?

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