We are buying into the idea that being attractive is something that is valuable and it's not, in regards to our worth as human beings.

We are worthy whether we are "attractive" or not.

We are worthy if we were identified as the ugliest motherfucker on the planet, you are still worthy.

I am still worthy of whether some random person on the street is like, “Oh, she's ugly.”

I'm still worthy if someone said, "She's the most sexy thing that I've ever seen in my life."

It has nothing to do with my value as a human being. This desire to be seen as attractive is also playing into these ideas. We just don't need to worry about it.

Who cares if you are unattractive? If you've decided, "Yeah. I'm unattractive." That doesn’t mean you’re unworthy. 

What is attractiveness? It's just so complicated.

I see a lot of times people will say, “Oh, well confidence is the sexiest thing people can wear, a woman can wear.” I think yeah, confidence can be sexy but...

We're still pandering to other people by saying confidence is sexy. Who the fuck cares if other people think that you're sexy.

If YOU feel sexy, great. If you don't feel sexy, that's fine, for example if you're asexual, that’s cool.

Make it about you and not how others are perceiving you. A lot of people want to become confident so that they can be sexy.

They know that they can't change their size, but they think “if I'm confident, then I will be sexy.” 

That is problematic.

How about feeling confident just because it feels good or, you're able to relate to your body better. Maybe you'll feel sexy yourself.

Fuck that; doing shit for other people all the time so that they can consume you.

You're not an object.

You're you and your fabulous, right?

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