We all have a pesky inner critic that tells us that we don’t measure up; we aren’t good enough, not worthy of the love we have in our lives, not beautiful…enough.
How the heck do we deal with this seemingly ever present Beelzebub?
Thing is, our inner critic is doing us a favour. We may not realise it, but our inner critics help keep us safe. Our inner critics keep us cautious and stop us taking life threatening chances.
You may notice that when you are in a period of growth in your life your inner critic is loud and proud whispering sweet nasties in your ear.
That’s because with growth comes risk.
What our inner critic doesn’t know is that fancy party you want to go to, or that speech you want to make at work isn’t going to be potentially life threatening (although it may feel it sometimes!).
So, we need to take charge and tell our inner critics some home truths.
When your inner critic is saying “Girl, you’re ugly! Better not show that beat face and raggedy clothes at that dinner party! People are going to be laughing at you behind your back!”.
You respond with “Thank you so much for your concern. I know social rejection is can be scary but I got this. I may be nervous but I can do it and those who judge me for my appearance are not people I want in my life anyway!”.
You should be firm, but empathetic with your inner critic. After all, your inner critic is scared. You’re going to reassure it that you’re in charge an can handle your own business.
Once you make a practice of standing up to your inner critic it’ll get easier. The verbal attacks will get less frequent, less vicious and when they do come up (because they always will), you’ll be in a place where you can handle it like the badass boss that I know you are!